#6 of 37 Lessons -- Lose Your "buts"

Lose your buts – No, I’m not talking about that butt you resolved to lose in the new year, I’m talking about the word but. The word “but” is a simple conjunction that means, except for the fact. The word but, wipes out whatever you put in front of it. Think about these few statements:

I love you, but we never do anything fun anymore. 

You’re a great employee, but you are disconnected from your co-workers.

I loved the book, but found a few parts a little boring. 

That was delicious, but the portions were way too big. 

In each of those cases, the word “but” negated the first and perhaps most important part of the sentence. So, how do we fix this problem? The best way, is to use the word “and” instead of “but.” Let’s try the previous statements again with the word “and”.

I love you and think we should go out to celebrate the things we love to do together.

You’re a great employee and I would like us to work on integrating more with the team. 

I loved the book and wish I could have connected better with a few parts that I found tedious.

That was delicious and next time, we should consider splitting an entrée, or ordering fewer courses.

A word of warning: Be careful to not substitute the word “however” it can have the same effect as the word “but”. 

See you tomorrow. Now, get your buts out of here!!!